since he can't change, then i guess i have to be the one brave enough to change. and i'm doing it little by little, u see, every day i would be the first to msg him and ask him what's the plan for today. so now, its been a few days since i didn't msg him first and somehow i'm proud of it. it may be nothing much to you, but to me, it means a lot.
i am now in the journey to find myself again. to find the old me again.
i want to be independent again.
i want to do things and not care how he would think of it.
i want to meet new people.
i'm sick of crying, for a guy whom i'm not too sure if i want to marry anymore. *chuckles*
i want to live life the way i want it to be.
wish me luck!
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hmm..i read your last few post and i can say i see your point. its common the way u feel. but there is always logic to why things happen the way it did.
from a guy's point of view, its usually simple. especially when it comes to the friends vs girlfriends dilemma. usually its the friends who wins, especially ones who they have not met for so long. its just because they knew their friends longer than they know their girlfriends. so for us guys, the answer is simple (in a way).
however, there are times when the guy need to take the other option, which is spend time with the girlfriend. but hey, as you said, the rest of the year is spent with you. so there should not be much to complain about.
remember that relationships are all about give and take. so improvise about how you two spend your time.
:)
thanks lazy f. its not that i'm trying to control him to be with me 24/7. but somehow, i feel like i've been used all these while. i can't help it but to feel that way. when he has no friends around, he'll be with me. but when they're around, he'll be with them throughout the day. i get used to the fact that he's with me every day that i rebel with the thought of sharing him with other ppl. but i'm taking it slow now. try to gather myself so that i won't be dependent on him anymore. anyways, thanks for your thought aite. appreciate it much. =p
its only natural for you to feel used. it happens, but i know that is not the case. so you should not be thinking about that. its just the way man is wired up i think. it happens a lot, even to me. when im with my friends, my girlfriend will feel somewhat left out and she will just keep quiet. i notice that but i cannot really change that. i'm just thankful that she is understanding. :)
yeah, your gf sounds just like me. before this, i used to be really quiet among his friends. till one day, i know that somehow i have so something to fit in. and i did that. its not that i don't like his friends but if to the extent that his friend said that i have to give my bf some space in front of his other friend is just too much already. i mean, he has no rights to say that to me. that guy just broke up with his gf a few months already, and now just because he doesn't have anyone else to go out/be with, he's using that excuse. i told my bf, if he's still with the gf, he wouldn't spend so much time with my bf.
about being understanding, since before we are together, i'm understanding enough i think. and i still can be understanding up till now. all i want for him to know who's the main person in his life.
yeah. i know what you mean. she had to adapt too. i don't really agree with your bf's friend. the only time i would say to someone to give his/her bf/gf space is when they just had a fight. just so that they can cool down, see the situation from a distance and think rationally. otherwise, they should have all the time they want with each other. its really up to them how they want to spend it. i think his friend is either jealous or lonely. thats why he said that. maybe he wants what you have but cannot get it, so seeing the two of you reminds him of that fact. either just the two of them or with a group of friends.
i really think your bf should include you in his activities now as he did before. it should not change even if his friends from overseas are back.
have you really said whats on your mind to him? maybe he doesn't realize what is going on as you said in your new post. if you haven't, try doing it. but don't make the situation as a tense one. keep it simple, relaxed. so that no one will get angry and end up hurt.
exactly! i told him what i think of all this but to no avail. i guess he couldn't understand it the way i understand it. about his friend, yes i was hurt at that time. me and the bf was ok when he told me that. and it came as a surprise to me cause i thought my bf told him about it. but apparently he didn't tell anyone about this. thats one thing good about him. unlike me,hehe.
probably its the lack of experience. slowly he will get it. well, just ignore what his friends says. all in all, its the opinions of people you trust that you should consider using or doing. otherwise, try not to.
yeah, i know what you mean. =p
in the end, the only thing that matters if the two of us only. thanks lazy f. =)
yup. that is whats important. so enjoy every moment spent together. :)
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